How you show up
Making a conscious decision about how you’re going to show up each and every day, I believe is the most important thing that anyone of us can do for ourselves and for anybody else. Life out there is actually tough it is not like Hollywood portrays it. There are actually more days that are grunt work to develop the skill. To just keep life moving along to keep life neutral. And we do have extraordinary days. That we either schedule in advance and prepare for or it happens spontaneously. But the importance to how we show up is that in my opinion, and I will stake all my conviction behind this, is that we really have to show up at our very best to give everybody what the very best we can give them and we need to premeditatedly determine that. Commit to that. Everyday. We certainly don’t want to add to other people’s burdens by being something other than what they deserve.
In my opinion, people don’t deserve anything other than a person that shows up that is into service, into integrity and honesty, to create and provide great value to be an act of support that enables a person to move to their ‘bigger’. I feel that anything that detracts from that and we all have difficulties in our life because that is the nature of it. I don’t believe that other people need to be the extension of the challenges that we are facing day in and day out. That’s really personal to us and it is up to us to find our own solutions forward in our life of challenge. Because that is really what it is. Life is a life of challenge.
When we come from our highest-level service to other people it helps them because it doesn’t add to their burden. I know people that carry a massive load of difficulty because of what other people said or did and were examples of in their early developmental years. And that became the normal that they grew up with. It’s no longer serving them well and those people may not be able to out run those influences. Had those people shown up differently, their lives would have been different. Our job is to not add any burden to anybody. By showing up from our conviction and we address our personal needs in a personal way and we show up for people in a way that only adds to their future.
To me, that’s an act of CHOICE. Because every day before we engage people we need to deliberately sit and really commit to how we are going to show up. And be consciously aware of that and what that is and what effect that will have the impact it will have. That’s part of our recovery over self from our past that moves us into our best present. That can be what our future is built on. It helps other people by being a demonstration of how they should show and also what a true friend and mentor really looks like. It becomes a win win for everybody. But this is not automatic. Human nature is not geared towards that. Human nature is a little bit excuse base, blame based. It wants to share a story for people to hear.
But I think we need to be superhuman in this regard not just natural. Supernatural, almost. And we do that by everyday constantly looking at who we want to be, knowing our vulnerabilities and weaknesses. Not reinforcing the, giving people less than people deserve. This should be written on the calendar. This should be done not assumed or thought about and done later. It needs to be done before we get around people, before we get around any noise, disruption, or any clutter. It needs to be deliberate. We need to be able to mentally put a check mark next to the box “Have I deliberately made a choice of how I am going to show up today for others?”
It doesn’t necessarily get any easier. This is a formality that needs to be engaged with our mind, body, and soul. It needs to be deliberate and conscious so that it becomes the operational system that we engage the day from.
From that, we as people, we realize that we do have a say over our past. We do have a better bigger future that awaits when we apply this very simple skill. If I had an opportunity to say just one thing to all of humanity it would be this very thing; the most important thing we can all do each and every day is to decide how we show up.
I promise you that I make a conscious decision EVERYDAY of how I am going to show up for you!